Richard A. Abend
Date of Passing: March 17th, 2016leave a condolence read condolences
Richard A. Abend, a true gentleman, devoted husband, loving father and amazing grandfather, passed away on Thursday, March 17, 2016. He was born March 6, 1935, in Dayton, Ohio, to Florence and Sam Abend. He moved to Utica when he was 4 years old. Growing up he loved spending every summer with his cousins in Cincinnati, Ohio. Dick was educated in Utica schools and graduated from Syracuse University. He received his Law degree from Cornell University and a Master's of International Law from Georgetown University, and was published twice for contributions to the Law Review. He became an Assistant Attorney General for Gov. Nelson Rockefeller. He then took a position as Chief Counsel for United States Senator Kenneth Keating. Mr. Abend later returned to Utica to become President and Legal Counsel to the Boston Stores (Interstate Corporation). He adored working side by side with his best friend, his Dad. Dick treasured his Boston Store family and the memories he made with them. He was recognized by many community organizations for his dedication to charitable causes, including being appointed to the National Boards for both Multiple Sclerosis and Muscular Dystrophy, and being named "Man of the Year". Above all else, Dick's true legacy lies within his many close relationships with each and every family member. The little things he did for so many people every day, whether it was a card, a kind word, or a small gift. He did so much for more people, without looking for recognition. Dick treated all people with respect. He was married for 47 years to his "bride" Joan Davidson Abend. He leaves behind two daughters, who could not have adored him more, Jennifer (Abend) Ward and Andrew of New Hartford and Meredith (Abend) Weiner and Sam of Brentwood, CA; along with his grandchildren, Sam, Eli, Benjamin, Griffin and Annie; and many other cherished family members and friends. He was an extremely brilliant and humble man who had great passion for politics, the Arts, sports, the Red Sox, the Miami Dolphins, James Bond and especially sunshine. Many often saw him driving his convertible with his face up to the sky. The funeral will be Monday at 12 pm at Temple Emanu-El, 2710 Genesee Street, Utica with Rabbi Cassi Kail and Rabbi Henry Bamberger officiating. Interment will follow in Crown Hill Memorial Park, Clinton. A calling hour will precede the service from 11-12 at the Temple. Shiva will be observed Monday from 6-8 pm at the home of Jennifer and Drew Ward, 116 Gilbert Road, New Hartford. Richard wanted donations in his honor to be sent to Pacific Point Academy, 2701 Ocean Park Boulevard, Suite 150, Santa Monica, CA 90405, a school for children with learning differences, where his grandson Ben is thriving. If so desired you may consider the American Heart Association or a charity of your choice as well. Arrangements are with the Bentz Funeral Service, Inc., New Hartford.
Dearest Joan & Beautiful daughters, With sincere sympathy for the loss of a fabulous, sincere, kind, loving and gentle man I have ever known. Always shall I remember the love and compassion of all of you. Working at the Boston Store and babysitting for Jennifer was a most joyful time in my life. To be trusted with their very first baby was an honor to me. May you know he will always be in my heart as a special person with fond memories. May he rest in Peace and may all of you be comforted at a very difficult time such as this.
Mary Guzzardo Annese
Mary Guzzardo Annese
Richard and I worked together for Mayor Ed Hanna in the mid-1970s. Dick was a loyal and trusted friend.
I will remember as I was recuperating from an illness at the Sitrin Home. It was Dick that inspired me to perserve.
God Bless Joan and the entire family. All our love and prayers.
Janice and Samuel L. Russo, Jr.
Dick and I were classmates and ZBT fraternity brothers at Syracuse Univ.
I realized he was a first class guy when we first met & he remained that way thru thick and thin. We shared many, many good times together at school & remained best friends for more than 55 years. He was a straightforward guy, understanding, helpful. Along with everyone else I am
deeply saddened by his passing. My condolences to the Abend family.
Your love and support means so much to our family. We were blessed to have Richard and we feel so lucky to have all of you. Love Joan, Jennifer and Meredith
Dear Joan and Family: I was in Philly this weekend and just heard the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. May your memories for this great man keep you strong. Love, Jan
Dear Joan, we are so sorry to hear of Dick's passing. We had so many wonderful, happy and joyful times together. Dick will be sorely missed. We pray for you.
Tom & Helga Riordan
Jaz and I offer our deepest condolences for your loss to a great man . Richard was so kind to Jaz and Rob Furbush when they were growing up and we will never forget him
Jazmond and Renee
Joan and family, My husband so enjoyed visiting with Dick and exchanging all kinds of stories and views. He was a wise, interesting man who could easily see the humor in life, He blessed us and was blessed to have such a loving family. My heartfelt condolences
Joan, Jennifer, Meredith,
Mr. Abend was a fantastic guy with an amazing family! He always seem like happiest guy in the world, and I have no doubt that he was. I feel blessed to have known him. Miss you all!
Joan and family
So sorry to hear about Richard.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Janet Mann and Pete Shields
The Boley family mourns the loss of a dear friend who always had a compassionate word, keen wit and a twinke in his eyes. He was the most noble of men and will be sorely missed by us. Holding all of you in my heart....
For one last time in March, Dick, I'll tell you--This will be our year!
Joan, please know that I am thinking of you and your family. I hope your wonderful memories of 47 years together will help you through this difficult period. Will try to reach you soon.
Judy and Glen Schneider
Always a kind gentleman with a kind word. Certainly going to be missed. My condolences to you all
Joan, We are so very sorry to hear of Dick's passing. He always had a smile for everyone. He was a dear man. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
Christine Carucci Tencza
Know that we are thinking of you and your family -and extend our sympathy.
We want you to know that we are here for you in the days and months ahead.
Paddy and Barry
Paddy and Barry Epstein
Dear Joan and family,
My thoughts and prayers to all of you on your loss. May your memories be a comfort.
On behalf of the entire Brown family, our deepest sympathies on the loss of a wonderful guy, and a true gentleman. Kind to everyone he met..his memory will be eternal.
Thinking of you and your family. May your memories bring comfort, and the caring of those who share them. Hope we will see you next month.
Joan and family
We want to send our condolences
for your loss. We have find memories of
the times we shared.
Linda and Oscar Stivala
Joan: We hold you and the kids in our hearts. We will be in touch as soon as we can reach you. Meanwhile, please accept our deep sympathy. Love, Judy and Byron
Judy and Byron Pollock
Your father was such a lovely man. He will be missed. Thinking of you all at this time. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. Much love,Lauren Jeff Lily and Maddy
Lauren Reiner Brickman
Joan...you know me as the owner of the candy store...my deepest sympathies
Joan and family = Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. We are happy that we had the opportunity to meet and briefly get to know Richard. He certainly will be missed.
Diane & Bob Friedman
We were neighbours for just a few years but got to experience Dick's persona first hand.Joan,you are in our thoughts .Fred and Marilyn.
fred and marilyn demma
Jen, My sincere condolences. Your Dad always lit up Teddy's when he visited for lunch with his NY Post... Such a positive spirit, I will remember him fondly.