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Obituary - Paul E. Bottini, Jr.

Paul E. Bottini, Jr.

Date of Passing: October 21st, 2012

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Paul E. Bottini, Jr. 53, of Utica, entered into eternal life unexpectedly on Sunday, October 21, 2012 at Faxton-St. Luke''s Healthcare Center, with his loving family at his bedside. He was born November 10, 1958 in Utica, the son of the late Paul and Mary Sankowski Bottini and was a graduate of T. R. Proctor High School. On June 27, 1981, Paul married Tammy Klar, a blessed union of 31 years in St. Mary of Mount Carmel Church. Prior to his illness, Paul was employed as a forklift operator with Smurfit Stone. Paul was a die-hard Boston Red Sox fan, loved to do gardening, enjoyed televised wrestling matches, was addicted to the Food Network Channel, and most of all he loved and enjoyed being with his granchildren. He is survived by his beloved wife, Tammy; two daughters, Kara Bottini and her fiance, Jarvis "J.B." Washington and Krystyna Bottini and Johnny Gonzalez; two sons and a daughter-in-law, Paul and Jennifer Bottini and Stephen Bottini; a sister and brother-in-law, Barbara and Michael La Paglia; and a brother, Julio Bottini, all of Utica; 13 grandchildren, Eddie, Angelo, Annalicia, Logan, Giavanna, Aaliiyah, Jiuliana, Stephen, Antonio, Chase, David, Johnny and Jonathon; his in-laws, Francis and Louis Klar of Utica and John and Deborah Klar of Rome; his life long friends, Robert Emilian and Cynthia Goff; his godson, Joseph caruso; his god-daughter, Stephanie Capalupo; several nieces and nephews, especially acknowledging, Debbie, Michele, and Michael La Paglia; and his dogs, Thunder, Cassie and Trixie. Calling hours for family and friends will be held on Wednesday (tonight) from 5-8 PM at the Bentz & Amodio Funeral Service, Inc., 470 French Road, Utica/New Hartford. A funeral service will be held at the conclussion of visitation by Father James Cesta. Private burial and committal services will be offered by Sister Sharon.


Dear Paule,I can't believe you are gone. I just talked to you Sunday afternoon on your front porch & you were fine. I've taken care of you since you were born, that's how I learned to be a good mother. You were always around,no matter where I went, whether it was taking you to get pumpkins & carving them for Halloween & going trick or treating to going to visit Santa, you were there. When i had my children you were more like a brother to them than an uncle,& even to this day they still felt the same. Even when you got married I couldn't get rid of you because you moved next door & have been there ever since. I don't know how I am going to sit on my back deck anymore without wishing you were on yours. You are my baby brother & I miss you so much already, I'll never answer the phone again & here the word YO when I say hello, never hear you say Barb call me on the phone when I'm trying to talk to you over the fence because you can't hear me.never see your smiling face again. I will miss you & love you forever my baby brother, give mommy a hug & kiss for me. Until we meet again, Love your sister BARB

Tammy, I still am in shock. He was always so full of joy and enjoyed life. I remember all my years working with him and the times we went to Boston to see the Red Sox at Fenway. He was taken from us way too early and I never thought we would lose him this early. He will be missed greatly.
Tim Oyer

Paul, Debbie says she is waiting for you, she loved you, as she did all Smurfit employees. God Bless your family

Tammy, When I went on facebook and saw your post about Pauls death I was totally shocked. I remember back in nursing school that you were the only one who was engaged in our class. I thought that was kind of neat. You have been together for so many years. My heart goes out to you. This must be a difficult time but you will get thru it with the help of friends and the large family you have. The thirteen grndchildren will keep you busy and will give you something positive to focus on. If you need someone to talk to please contact me. You are a great girl and you will get thru this too......
Debbie DeLaFleur (Fontana)

Tammy and family, my condolences and prayers are there in the loss of Paul. When I looked at the OD Wednesday morning I was in shock. Paul was one of the many guys that entered my family via my brothers or myself who became one of our brothers. It is very difficult to lose someone so young, we all know that to well with David. But know this, all those memories of the past from our early days in East Utica to the present will help you on this path of life. The faith we have been raised with allows us to know we will be reunited again with Paul. I'm sure David was a big part of his welcome home with our Lord. I will not be able to get to Utica for the services but I will pray for you at that time for comfort from God. Take care honey and I am sure my family will be there for you.
Bobby Ollerenshaw

Paul….my uncle, my friend. I miss u so much and am so mad that I didn’t get the chance to say good-bye or to tell u how much I loved you. I still cannot believe that you are gone, it happened so fast! I have so many years of memories with you from the day I was born till now. You were always with us. I’m trying to remember all the good times we’ve shared, but it just makes me cry harder because I know there won’t be anymore. I wasn’t ready for you to leave. We shared so many years together, birthdays, holidays, cookouts, garage sales and so much more. Uncle Paulie was always there with us, playing with us, making us laugh. You were like my big brother and always watched out for me and Deb….especially when you would come out with us….how many guys did you scare away LOL. I remember sipping my first beer with you at Sylvan Beach, fell in love with tattoos because of you and experienced the Yankees/Red Sox at Fenway because of you. That was a great weekend that I will never forget….The Yanks swept those Sox (ha-ha). I’m going to miss all the Yankees/Red Sox teasing. I know you are watching over all of us and wishing we weren’t so sad, but it’s hard. Our lives will not be the same without you! I hope you knew how much you meant to me, to all of us. Give Grandma Bottini a hug and a kiss for me and Grandma and Grandpa LaPaglia too…..I’m sure you’ve already seen them all, including King. I hope you enjoyed your day at the casino last Friday. If I had known it was going to be my last day with you, I would never have let it end. I just want one more day to talk to you about all our good times and laughs…..there are more than a million. I will be saying goodbye to you later today and I don’t want to. I just want you back and I know that is selfish. Rest in peace my favorite uncle….I love you and I miss you. Never going to see you again on your back deck or sitting in front of that loud TV. Until we meet again Paul, I love you, I miss you and I will never forget you.
Michele LaPaglia

Sending heartfelt prayers during this difficult time. May you lean on God's strength and rest in His arms when you are weary. God bless
Rena Chapman-Cunningham

My deepest sympathy on your loss Tammy,and prayers for you and your family
Kathy sanger

Tammy I don't know where to begin I'am in shock to hear that Paul has passed. I will always remember all the great times we had when we were together from all the double dates to just hanging around the best memeory was when we all went to the prom and rented the thunderbird. Time goes on so fast and we loose track of time and friends but the memories will always be with us. The shock of loosing someone you love so fast is horrible. I feel like I have lost my brother David again, hopefully Paul and David are enjoying some great times together this is what we were taught to believe and I hope that is true. There is nothing that I or anyone can say to make this easier on you and your family, but we need to hold on to those great times and memories forever and ever. To the entire family as time goes on it may get easier but there is no gaurantees in life, sometimes life is not fair but we deal with watever life throws at us. The next few weeks, months and years will be different and difficult and we will never forget all the wonderful memories but time will heal all of our pain.Tammy if there is anything that I can do for you do not be afraid to call even if it is to talk to someone five years has past since we lost David and there is still days that I need to talk to someone. To paul may you rest in peace and know that you will be missed by many till we meet again God Bless You
Gary Ollerenshaw

Tammy; words cannot express my thoughts and feelings as I am still in shock. I dont remember a day of my childhood/young adulthood without Pauly. Although time separated us by many miles he was always in my thoughts. I was always so excited to see him out and about. He was truly an AWESOME Friend and we shared many of laughs together. In fact when I saw him a few months ago at my nephews party we were talking and we were laughing so hard at our first ever vacation outside of the Lansing Street compound (Our First Airplane ride too) to Orlando/Disney. And how we drove Huey the butler at the Holiday Inn crazy. But we had an awesome time. I also cant imagine you without him as you were one from CYO on. And what a great couple you made. I always thought of him as my brother and that is the way I will always remember him. Remember I am here for you if you need anything. To all the children and grandkids: You had someone very special for a time in your life (yes it was too short). He was a GREAT Man who had a BIG HEART. He told me how special each of you were to him the last few times I saw him (At Hannaford or at the Party). Dont ever forget him and make him always be proud of each of you. And most importantly take care of your mother. She is just as AWESOME of a person as your dad was. Pauly, Save a spot at the bar for me as some day we will share some good times and laughs. I hope my mom and dad along with your mother were there to greet you with open arms and lots of hugs and kisses (Perogies too). Perhaps when it is my turn you can once again pick me up in your NOVA. I will hear you coming as your 8 track will be shaking the joint. PS: The Red Sox can use your help next season and I will know who helped them (us) out. Rest in Peace my friend until we meet again.
Bob Emilian

Tammy, There are no words to say how sorry we are for your loss. Every memory I have growing up has you and Paul in it. Know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers. Remember, we are here for you. You need anything, just even to talk, please call. God Bless you all. Bob and Camy
Bob And Camy Williams